Why Feminists Do Not Want to Discuss Sugar Babies

Executive Summary

• Feminism states that it is only about equality. The existence of “sugar baby” websites indicated the opposite.

Introduction

Feminists have constantly proposed that they are only about equality. However, upon investigation, it turns out that there are many areas where women obtain special privileges that are only available to women while also claiming the privileges of men. The phenomenon of sugar babies is a perfect example of this.

Understanding Sugar Babies

Probably, most people reading this article already know. Still, Sugar babies are a type of light prostitution where a typically much younger woman offers up sex and companionship (sometimes no sex as will be covered) to a wealthier, usually older man.

This phenomenon is explained in the following videos.

Usually, this interpretation is that it is okay as long as both are honest about what they want. However, the fact is that women have this option available to them while also expecting and receiving the same access to the job market that men have brought up a problematic aspect of feminism. 

Reviewing Profiles on Seeking Arrangements

When analyzing the sugar baby/sugar daddy website Seeking Arrangements, I found many women looking for men to help them pay their way through college.

Here is one example of a typical quote of this type from a profile.

Hiya (: just a college girl looking for some money. I am grateful for whatever. Message me Id love to get to know you (;

This quote is transparent. This is a college girl just looking for money, but who says, “I’d love to get to know you.”

The first part of the quote contradicts the second part of the quote.

And this quote.

Full time student majoring in communications. I’m a small town girl. Will not be able to meet up due to COVID. Online relationships only. Looking for someone to help pay my tuition and bills.

Covid is a risk for many people, and it is not much of a risk with one-on-one interactions with a single person. And there are also self-administered covid tests now that can be done right before the person.

So here, this woman is expecting her tuition and bills to be paid for an online relationship and using covid as an excuse to keep the relationship non-physical. One wonders if this is a trick wives will adopt to keep from having sex with their husbands by blaming covid.

But it does not end there.

Mentorship for Sex?

Some women also want the sugar daddy to support their career endeavors and provide them with “mentorship.”

The following quote is one example of this.

Going to school for real estate at the moment. Looking for a platonic friendship and a good mentor to help me get started in the real estate field. I’m very ambitious and determined when it comes to my career. Not gonna lie, I am looking for someone who can help me financially, as well. I enjoy golfing, being outdoors, going out, shopping, reading, and traveling.

Hmmm….so both mentorship and financial support from a friend. Interesting. This is a curious use of the term friend or friendship. It is very unclear what the sugar daddy would be getting out of this.

When women use the term “mentorship,” they mean men providing them with advantages versus other people in the workplace. It also presumes that men have mentorship, which I don’t recall obtaining in my career. Here, Sherly Sandberg provides a false backdrop that men constantly mentor other men. Secondly, many women use their sex appeal to obtain some of this mentorship, which is something men normally can’t do (unless the senior member is gay), and this, of course, is entirely left out of this interview. 

The Dark Side of Mentorship

Mentorship also has a little-discussed dark side: it is a type of corruption. So, do all employees get equal mentorship? Sheryl Sandberg, being a shark, would naturally demand to receive more mentorship than other employees at her rank. So, “equal mentorship” will not fly with someone like Sheryl Sandberg.

Mentorship sounds remarkable, like cheating others out of promotion by ingratiating yourself to the boss. This is reflected in another observation about the profiles at Seeking Arrangements, which is that the profiles routinely mentioned the sugar babies’ educations and their future plans for more education. The presumption is that the sugar daddies should care. This is a mark of egotism that the sugar daddies should take some type of long-term interest in the careers and aspirations of the sugar babies. Women are signaling that others, strangers, should take a constant interest in their career goals. I can say as a man, that this is not something that men expect or receive.

Mentorship is also a “quick pro quo,” as evidenced by sugar babies’ requests for mentorship. Sugar babies trade sex for mentorship (in addition to receiving other financial compensation). In the work setting, mentorship is typically provided to those loyal to the boss. It creates cliques in the company.

Sheryl Sandberg is an Expert in What Exactly?

Something else curious is that the people interviewing her in this video segment accept Sheryl Sandberg’s assertions. However, what makes Sheryl Sandberg an expert on women in the workplace outside of being a woman? Also, Sheryl Sandberg has a lengthy history of lying, so she is not a reliable source of information on any topic.

Furthermore, while Sheryl Sandberg is in the studio, it might be good to ask her questions about Facebook’s constant lying about everything from its privacy policies to who it shares information with the government. Yet, she never faces any questions on these topics. She is presented as an expert because he happens to be a billionaire and prominent executive. There is also no disclosure of the corporate ties between Facebook and CBS. CBS is pretending to interview Sandberg when they give her a platform to say anything she wants in a completely uncontested environment.

What is the Feminist Take on Sugar Babies?

With the Sugar Baby website, women expect mentorship from men with whom they do not work and intend to exchange sexual favors. Will feminists argue that it’s unfair that women can trade sex or sexual attention to be “mentored?”

Of course not.

Feminists only observe inequities in one direction.

What should be apparent is that men who are trying to get through college don’t have this option, so that is not “equality.” However, when feminists talk about equality, they don’t discuss women’s advantages that men do not have. If the topic were brought up, a feminist would most likely blame the sugar baby/sugar daddy phenomena on “society” or “the patriarchy” and being “objectified for their bodies” and try to evade the topic altogether. However, the fact is that women can use sex and sex appeal to obtain material benefits that men cannot do. If one could choose between doing this, it benefits that person.

Sugar Babies Having Part of Their College Education Paid For?

The quotes of several women in their profiles indicated that they have no problem asking men to pay for their education or part of it. The frequency of the request on the website would indicate that some men do it. This means that some men who had to drop out of college for lack of funds had female counterparts who could stay in college and complete college because they could become sugar babies. That appears to be inequality.

Is This the Standard Feminist Dating Profile?

While perusing the profiles at Seeking Arrangements, I found what looks like a very standard feminist profile.

While this is an extreme profile, some stated the women were “not interested in meeting in person.” They wanted to “get to know each other” (this is a euphemism often used by women for no sex or not for a long time in any case) or that generally, they would only do Zoom calls.

This means that some women on the website want to obtain an allowance for just talking men. This was so absurd, and I laughed when I first read these profiles. I found it difficult to believe, and I had no idea such a market for “remote” sugar babies existed.

However, here is a typical quote that I found.

Someone that I can enjoy spending time with and chatting with that has the means financially to help me achieve my goals. Send a gift from my wishlist to ensure a date😊

So a gift of a purse or perfume ensures a date. But is this a date or a chat on the phone? Because chat on the phones is not called dates.

And this one.

I’m very friendly, supportive, and humble. I like to spend money and meet new people. An emotional connection as well as tending to my financial and luxury needs is what I’m searching for. I like spending money and looking good as well as spending money on looking good.

This woman wants to meet her financial and luxury needs (is luxury really a need, isn’t that a desire?) and have an emotional connection. This sounds like this profile is not offering sex.

And this one..

Looking for a sugar daddy! weekly or monthly allowance. willing to work with you to get us both what we want 😉. no strings attached. looking for online only due to covid!

And here is the covid excuse again to keep from anything physical. This sugar baby will “work with” her sugar daddy to get “us what we both want,” but why would a man provide an allowance for an online relationship? And as for “no strings attached,” a weekly or monthly allowance sounds like a string.

Another profile stated that she did not want to have any physical interaction. But then she showed a picture of her body in a risque pose.

This brings up the question, if you are only proposing a platonic relationship with a sugar daddy, why are you showing men a provocative image of your body?

I am dumbfounded that women believe or some women believe they can be plutonic sugar babies. The point of being a sugar baby is to trade sex for financial benefits. If you are only going to be talking on the phone, you don’t even need to be attractive. This would seem to open the market of sugar baby dome to a much larger number of women.

A Narcissist Looking for a Slave

One profile that really caught my attention had the following caption.

I’m not interested in your everyday SD/SB relationship. I can pay for my own vacations, I don’t care about traveling with you. I’m not just a young and beautiful girl to be by your side. I’m looking for a SLAVE, for someone to USE. I’m not interested in your allowances by taking care of you. I get money, without doing anything, just by existing and being myself. You have to understand that.

Conclusion

Feminism constantly suffers from double standards. The objective of feminists is to..

• a.) Overstate or ultimately make up the areas where women do not have equality (such as when they make false claims about the gender pay gap, which does not exist in Western countries — where most feminists reside)
• b.) Ignore the areas where women have privilege over men (such as the ability to be a sugar baby or the fact they do not have to register for the draft or their treatment in family court.
• c.) Deny or minimize the progress made in Western countries to protect and support women.

I have never once heard feminists discuss the sugar baby/sugar daddy phenomenon. Feminists present their cases in the same way as BLM. They cherry-pick their examples or outright fabricate examples and only focus on examples supporting their case. If you contest their assertions, then you are marked as a sexist. Anyone can do this and make a case for inequality, even where none exists, but simply cherry-picking some data points and leaving out others that argue against their case.